Secondary infertility is the inability to get pregnant or to carry a baby to term after previously having given birth to a baby. In many ways, secondary infertility is the same as primary infertility: the same fear, doubt, uncertainty, anger, and sadness… but with the additional pinch of “mom guilt” because there is a little audience member observing it all, so we worry about how our emotions are affecting them on top of feeling bad that we can’t give them a sibling. Whether you are currently in a season of secondary infertility, or you are past the point of trying to conceive, we are here to support you on this journey.

It is not a personal failure that you have not had another child. None of us can give the gift of a sibling to our child(ren). God is the giver of life. Life is a gift from Him and from Him alone. It is important to remember this, because the self-loathing and “mom guilt” from secondary infertility is real! You cannot control the size of your family any more than you could cure the terminal illness of a loved one. The size of your family is not in your hands, and you must let go of the voice that tells you to blame yourself. The truth is that there is good in your life as it is, right now. Your life is good. God wants you to be a happy wife. God wants you to be a happy mother. Try to focus on the small and simple blessings of each day with gratitude. Wherever this journey takes you, know that our Lord loves you and has plans for you to prosper, and plans to give you hope (Jeremiah 29:11).

We invite you to take time to listen to the voices of the women and men of Springs in the Desert. Read the blog posts, listen to our podcast, and let these voices be a source of comfort and solace. Know that you are not alone in this struggle to find peace and acceptance in your life as it is. Know that you are not alone in the emotions of fear, anger, and shame. Know that what you are facing is hard. It’s not just you; it is hard.  But know that you have friends who are on this journey with you, prayerfully supporting each other as we seek healing and joy in God’s unique call to fruitfulness in our lives.