Helping couples struggling with infertility to process and move beyond their grief to find the fruitfulness God has planned for their marriage.
Welcome to Springs in the Desert, the home of an apostolate dedicated to spiritually and emotionally supporting women and couples as they navigate the frustration, pain and difficulty of infertility. While our experiences are each unique to us, we are women who know how deeply felt the emotions surrounding infertility are, and we too experience... Continue Reading →
He wept. It was the sobbing-kind of weeping where you can’t control what is happening to you. My husband, Phil, is not the kind of person to cry over his own life situations. Sure, he gets a little teary-eyed when he sees something sad, but now four years into our marriage, I had never seen... Continue Reading →
I was diagnosed with endometriosis back in 2013 after a laparotomy surgery. I had been charting my signs of fertility with Natural Family Planning and was able to help diagnose it. The doctor found that my endo was Stage 3 (out of 4), and thankfully was able to remove it all. This helped me to... Continue Reading →
I’ve found that, as a man, it’s easy to reduce infertility to a problem that lies in the individual, and from there to treat it like a dragon that can be slain once and for all. I began to fall into this pit and was setting myself up for failure by trying to tackle these doctors’ visits and ensuing procedures in a similar way. It was a dumb mindset. Marriage is built on two people, and where there are two people working for sainthood, there’s no room for pride and arrogance.
A Reflection on Infertility, in Two Parts Part II: Don't Look Down If I had the answer to eliminating infertility or its suffering I’d share it with the world. Sadly, there’s no answer, or at least not an easy one. But I have learned that though God hasn’t given me what I want (to conceive,... Continue Reading →
A Reflection on Infertility in Two Parts Part 1: Without a Net Dealing with infertility is a bit like being up on a high wire. When you are first trying to conceive and learning (or refreshing your memory) about fertility and the impact diet, exercise, and good self-care has on it, there’s a certain feeling... Continue Reading →
It is time for us to consider if we are truly honoring mothers by singling them out to stand while their daughters, sisters, and friends are left sitting in pain.
When I was single, I longed for the moment when God would present me with my vocation. I anticipated it at every turn and contemplated it at night falling asleep. When? Who? How? It was as though I began to desire the vocation itself more than God Himself. If I’m honest, I began to think once I... Continue Reading →
I’ve been particularly drawn to the Passion of our Lord Jesus since infertility has colored my life. I especially love praying and reflecting on the mystery of Jesus’ Crowning with Thorns, which has providentially received a lot of media attention during this Holy Week due to the devastating fire at the Cathedral of Notre Dame. ... Continue Reading →
Don’t let the title of this post fool you. It’s really not what you think…. As a woman who cannot conceive a child, I’ve put myself through a litany of questions that might be familiar to others in my place: Why me? Why us? How is this fair? Why doesn’t God love us/trust us/want to... Continue Reading →
