An Open Invitation

Welcome to Springs in the Desert, the home of an apostolate dedicated to spiritually and emotionally supporting women and couples as they navigate the frustration, pain and difficulty of infertility. While our experiences are each unique to us, we are women who know how deeply felt the emotions surrounding infertility are, and we too experience... Continue Reading →

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Infertility: A Holy Week Reflection

I’ve been particularly drawn to the Passion of our Lord Jesus since infertility has colored my life.  I especially love praying and reflecting on the mystery of Jesus’ Crowning with Thorns, which has providentially received a lot of media attention during this Holy Week due to the devastating fire at the Cathedral of Notre Dame. ... Continue Reading →

Infertility is Martyrdom

Don’t let the title of this post fool you. It’s really not what you think…. As a woman who cannot conceive a child, I’ve put myself through a litany of questions that might be familiar to others in my place: Why me? Why us? How is this fair? Why doesn’t God love us/trust us/want to... Continue Reading →

The Unique Grief of Infertility

My husband and I went on a marriage retreat last week, deep in the mountain woods. We stayed at a big old home, normally meant for family reunions - eight bedrooms, large kitchen, dining room, living room, and basement. My husband and I got there early and spent an hour transforming the basement "rec room"... Continue Reading →

On Hope and Miracles

“To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.” – G.K. Chesterton When I tell friends in Catholic circles about our minute prospects for biological children, and the lack of any ethical option for having biological children, a response I... Continue Reading →

The Unexpected Gift of Brokenness

As I was dropping off my 4-month-old foster son with his birthmother for his bi-weekly visit, I was taken aback by her hesitant and humble request: “Would you stay with me for the visit? He’s so much happier with you here.” While I had been eagerly anticipating spending that time in what had become my... Continue Reading →

A God at Hand: Part II

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how the experience of infertility has shaped my understanding of who I am and who Christ is. In my last entry, I wrote at length about how tenderly and literally the Lord emphasized His abiding presence with me at a particularly trying stage in this always trying journey.... Continue Reading →

The Mother in Me

One of the advantages I enjoy from teaching online is flexibility. As long as I have an internet connection I can grade papers and answer students’ questions at 7am from a cafe, or at 11pm from my couch in my PJs. Such convenience can be burdensome at times, especially when I receive a flurry of... Continue Reading →

Re-envisioning Motherhood

We are raised with the tacit assumption that motherhood naturally and easily follows marriage (Recall the childhood adage, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby…”). And for many it does. But for those of us who struggle with infertility, the delay or complete absence of children can bring about a crisis of faith:... Continue Reading →

On Feeling Invisible

Note: This is a journal-style reflection that I wrote during a difficult moment during my journey of infertility. While it was written a few years ago, I think (I hope) that it can still speak to the hearts of those carrying the cross of infertility, and in particular childlessness (no living children) – a cross... Continue Reading →

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