Today is Day 5 of National Infertility Awareness Week, and we are reminded that those couples who married later in life feel particularly pressured as they try to conceive and encounter difficulty. Let us pray for them and treat them with sensitivity. ❤️🙏
The decline in female fertility begins at age 32, and increases significantly from age 37 and beyond. As a woman ages, other disorders negatively affecting fertility may also increase. (The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, 2016)
Couples experiencing infertility, especially those who married later in life, feel particularly pressured in their pursuit of a family. They are keenly aware of the calendar and the clock, as well as the scrutiny of family, friends and even strangers. Often people want to be helpful, but their intrusive questions and unsolicited advice can instead be hurtful.
Friends and family can be most helpful by taking their cue from the married couple. Be available to listen when the couple is ready to share, and don’t offer advice unless asked. If you don’t know a couple well, refrain from continuing to ask questions if they haven’t offered further details about their fertility. Be patient, and don’t assume the couple doesn’t want children, or that they don’t know about or haven’t tried medical interventions (like NaPro Technology), charting cycles, and making lifestyle changes. Love them, listen to them, be there for them, and give them space to share their struggle with infertility when they are ready.